YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE ISN’T JUST PERSONAL. IT’S POLITICAL.
Most attachment advice focuses on childhood dynamics.
It ignores the systems that trained you to survive — gender roles, racial hierarchy, economic pressure, emotional labor.
When we ignore power, we misdiagnose survival.
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WHY SELF-WORK ALONE ISN’T ENOUGH
You may understand your attachment style — anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between.
But knowing the label rarely stops the pattern.
Because attachment patterns are reinforced by systems.
Who is taught to over-function?
Who is taught to shrink?
Who is rewarded for emotional withdrawal?
Who carries relational labor?
Without understanding power, we end up blaming ourselves for responses that were trained into us. And shame keeps the pattern intact.
ATTACHMENT WITHOUT POWER IS INCOMPLETE
Attachment patterns are not only personal. They are relational and social.
We cannot build secure relationships without understanding both attachment and the systems that shaped how we learned to survive.
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RELATIONSHIPS ARE STRUCTURED BY POWER
Attachment explains nervous system responses.
Power explains relational dynamics.
Secure attachment requires both.
Naming power is not about ideology.
It is about accuracy.
Accuracy changes what becomes possible.
WHAT CHANGES WITH STRUCTURAL CLARITY
When you understand both attachment and power, you begin to:
recognize activation without collapsing into shame
stop reenacting trained survival roles
communicate without domination or self-erasure
reduce relational burnout
build internal steadiness
choose connection instead of compulsion
Patterns repeat when they are misdiagnosed.
They shift when they are mapped correctly.
WHAT CLIENTS EXPERIENCE
“You do not realize what safety feels like until you experience it.”
— NANCY O, Therapist
“Working with Dylan helped me understand what my system was doing and why I reacted the way I did. I now feel steady in moments that used to overwhelm me.”
— JENNIFER L
“I can stay in conflict without shutting down. I understand my reactions without shame.”
— FURQAN N
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ABOUT DYLAN
I am an attachment-focused relationship coach working at the intersection of personal history and social structure.
My work integrates:
attachment theory
nervous system awareness
parts-based reflection
gender and power analysis
cultural conditioning
Relationships do not exist outside systems.
Healing requires understanding both.
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If you want structured, attachment-specific coaching that integrates power and relational dynamics, I offer individual and couples sessions focused on real-time pattern mapping and steadiness.
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